I’m not sure of much in this world. Maybe it’s a commitment issue. or a control issue. My mother (who happens to be a psychologist) recently told me that the fact that I have major panic attacks about (get this) finding a parking space is because I don’t like feeling out of control.
And you know what? She’s completely right. (always has been. thanks mom.) What I could never figure out or put into words she has always just shrugged away and said “well, it’s because of X or Y or Z and that’s that.” And suddenly things always seem less complicated and scary than they were before.
Control. I’m not sure of much in this world. But I am sure of this. Life is what you make it. Not what is given to you, not by some cosmic power of the heavens. You have control. (Except, of course, if it involves finding a parking space.)
It hailed on my wedding day. Storm and thunder and wet and mud everywhere. Runny brown murk. Everywhere.
I jumped in the puddles, twirled my dances, and dragged my dress through it all. Because it is what you make it. You have control. And every single one of our guests had a fabulous time. Because we had a fabulous time. Everyone was drenched. Everyone was happy.
(Can you imagine being at a wedding and seeing the bride burst into tears because her dress was the color of…. ok don’t answer that. Because i know you can. Point is… you wouldn’t have had a good time, would you? Because the bride was upset about something out of anyone’s control. Except her own.)
Control your outlook. Your expectations. Learn to roll with the punches, learn to make things fantastic for what they are. Don’t just look for silver linings, jump on them and make them your own. Live for the moment and don’t be afraid to do something outside your box. Typically those are the things you end up enjoying the most.
At the same time? Don’t put up with bs. Don’t make time for people who aren’t worth your time. Know that life is short, and worth living on your terms. Whatever they may be. Put yourself first, and make sure you never forget how beautiful you really are. Don’t let anyone ever tell you different.
The things you want to do in life are all achievable. So long as you make it that way. Create the life you want to live.
“Fall flat on your face if you must, but please, for the sake of us all, do not stop.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
*post inspired by tobeluminous